Penn hookup culture

Penn hookup culture

Casual sex has always been a part of campus life, right? Two studies by evolutionary biologist Justin Garcia found that the majority of college students have some sort of casual sex experience. The strongest predictor of hookup behavior? A previous hookup. Several studies indicate that rates of vaginal intercourse have declined significantly in the last decade, while rates of oral and anal sex have risen.

Having Feelings for a Hookup is Okay

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When I finally acknowledged my emotions and told him, this is how he responded. But then I realized: I had failed to maintain the emotionless relationship that Penn hookup culture idealizes. My introduction to this culture began with my first kiss on a frat dance floor as my hallmates cheered me on. Like many other freshmen, I was thrown into this new world with no former experience in physical relationships and with no expectations as to how people should act once involved in these relationships.

In Catholic school, I was taught that premarital sex and birth control were sins. As a young woman now capable of having sexual relationships, I felt liberated and empowered to be confident in my own body. On the other hand, I also felt that this culture coerced me into fitting an expectation of behavior while having these sexual relationships. Through casual chats with friends and overheard conversations on campus, I got the idea that everyone is expected to either have a consistent hookup or is looking for someone new.

Once I began to follow this behavior and started hooking up with people, I learned how to act from the words and actions of my partners. Over time, I conditioned myself to accept these cultural norms. I began to accept being ignored by hookups by day and patiently waited for effortless late—night texts most weekends. I was unable to focus in class, withdrew from social situations, and used sex as a means of coping. I also began to think that whatever happened in your hookup situation was outside of your control, and you had to accept it for what it was.

When I finally acknowledged and expressed that I had developed feelings for a partner, the denial I received turned into personal devastation. I thought I had done everything right in denying my emotions, maintaining a casual relationship for a full semester, and enthusiastically replying to every text and invite. How could I end up hurt despite behaving how I thought I was expected to?

I only felt the effects of these emotions when forced to confront them with the arrival of summer. With few distractions, I constantly reevaluated my situation and labeled myself as the cause of my own depression. Something that once made me feel liberated and excited instead left me feeling idiotic and used. As I also re—entered the hookup culture, I thought this confidence helped me to finally fit the standard of being able to have casual hookups and come out feeling nothing.

I felt as though I had finally mastered something that used to be so damaging—at least until I began to develop feelings for someone else. I want to have someone to blame for this toxic culture. No one comes to Penn with the intention of using and disrespecting others for the motive of sex. It is something we learn from each other and something we can change through our own actions.

You have to express what you want, whether it be during a hookup, in defining a relationship, or even in telling someone how much they hurt you. I still come out of hookups feelings used, I am treated below what I know I deserve, and I have issues that still need to be confronted. If you have a story you'd like to share, we'd love to hear about it. And feel free to submit below!

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The bright and bubbly blonde spent the entire school year interviewing Penn women like myself, examining the role of women in hookup culture. The resulting article, " She Can Play That Game, Too," appeared in the Sunday issue of the Times and came to the groundbreaking conclusion that — surprise! Yes, this much is true, but Taylor missed the mark on several other points. As a rising senior at Penn, I'm here to set the record straight. Women have caught on to the hookup game For Taylor, Penn women have a choice between career success and relationships, and they're choosing careers—but casual sex isn't a way for women to "get ahead," or play some sort of "game" with sexual partners who we don't actually like. Sometimes, we just want to have sex for sex's sake. What's wrong with that?

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Having Feelings for a Hookup is Okay

Most Ivy League students have traded in their textbooks for ties or travel for the summer, but that hasn't kept their campuses out of the headlines in recent weeks. In case you missed it, the New York Times reported a shocking new trend in a feature last month detailing the "hookup culture" at Penn: Some college-aged women have casual sex. What could possibly explain this breaking news, you ask? In fact, the paper of record concludes, some college women are too busy or ambitious for committed relationships, among other factors. That might seem simplistic, particularly for a nearly 4,word article that took months to report, and students at Penn seem to agree. In more serious news over in New Haven, Yale released its fourth semi-annual report of sexual misconduct complaints this past Wednesday. A total of 61 complaints of sexual assault, harassment, or other misconduct were brought to Yale officials between Jan. At Cornell, more fraternities than even exist at Harvard are in trouble with the university for reports of hazing. Cornell shut down two fraternities and sanctioned four more following investigations that occurred during the spring. Last month, a three-foot ball python went missing from a coed fraternity for several days, only to be found by a dog who was "'yapping really loudly,'" The Dartmouth reported.

Hooking Up at Penn

At 11 on a weeknight earlier this year, her work finished, a slim, pretty junior at the University of Pennsylvania did what she often does when she has a little free time. She texted her regular hookup — the guy she is sleeping with but not dating. What was he up to? He texted back: Come over.

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The New York Times spent a year following around female University of Pennsylvania students and came to the shocking conclusion that college-aged women not only have casual sex, but they also like it. Except when they don't. Women, amirite? The piece examines the trials and tribulations of female students navigating university hookup culture, and it reads a little like Tom Wolfe's I Am Charlotte Simmons, minus the painfully-badly-written sex scenes. There's also the girl whose virginity became a hinderance, so she picked a nice boy, lost it, and found out that that was the end of their relationship. Plus the girl who actually likes traditional dating relationships and is thinking about saving her virginity for marriage.

Kate Taylor Is (Mostly) Right About Penn's Hook-Up Culture

On the surface, I was successful. I was surrounded by diverse, intellectual friends. I led a popular student website and was active in the arts and athletics. I loved learning and made Phi Beta Kappa my junior year. I judged myself harshly, to the point of disgust. I drove myself to excessive exercising and near-anorexia. I felt this way because of men—or so I thought.

Stay plugged into Penn with this daily newsletter rounding up all of the top headlines from top headlines from the DP, 34th Street, and Under the Button. The week's top stories from the DP and beyond, meticulously curated for parents and alumni, and delivered into your inbox every Sunday morning. Get our award-winning print editions of The Daily Pennsylvanian delivered to your doorstep every week. Whether it be a freshman experimenting for the first time during NSO or a junior looking for some stress relief in the middle of finals season, hookup culture follows and shapes the Penn experience for countless undergraduates on this campus. Hookup culture at Penn, like it is at most colleges and universities, is highly visible and widely loathed. Although hookup culture is treated with distaste by the public and students alike, year after year it remains a steadfast and prominent part of campus life, which leads to the undeniable conclusion that hookup culture is something that can be healthy, pleasureable, and necessary.

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